Life is not just a bed of roses, but is can be beautiful nonetheless

Life is not just a bed of roses. Most of us have both small and large wounds on the soul that we try to forget, get over or live with in one way or another.

Maybe you tried to create something but failed? Perhaps you have lost a loved one? Perhaps you were rejected in childhood, or grew up in a home with psychological violence.

The wounds from trauma are often full of triggers that affect us, both consciously and unconsciously, and they can create obstacles and hold us back: We are unable to be ourselves to the fullest.

But it is not actually our wounds in themselves that make us happy or unhappy, safe or unsafe in this life - it is what we choose to do with the wounds.

There are several strategies for dealing with trauma and painful experiences. One is the hide-it-under-the-rug strategy, which I'm pretty sure you're familiar with.

We use this strategy to push away negative events, bad feelings, destructive thoughts and unhealthy reaction patterns - in the hope that everything will disappear by itself. Out of sight, out of mind.

The problem is that the more serious things don't necessarily go away using that strategy. It can be hidden, but not forgotten.

The body remembers. The subconscious mind remembers.

Triggers from past experiences tend to simmer.

They act like a magnet, drawing you into similar problematic situations and negative reaction patterns and emotions. And then everything grows bigger and worse.

A strategy I have far more faith in and have good experience with from my work is to allow the wounds to come forward to help the body - and the subconscious - to let go of what it has been carrying.

Only when we manage to include the body in the wound healing process – can we progress. Because even if we feel that we have progressed with reason or logic, it is not the one who rules.

The ruler is the subconscious. The subconscious controls 95% of our behavior - and our body is a communication channel of our subconscious mind. 

By including your body, your wounds can heal. You will then avoid getting caught up in the vicious spiral again - you can be free.

And the biggest gain from healing your wounds is that you find yourself. You find who you really are - with all your strength, power and life-force. 

Life is not always a bed of roses, but it can be beautiful nonetheless.

WIth love,